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Such A Life to Live and Such a Life to Love. I will share with you stories of love of life, my hobbies, my work.

Blog a Day Starts This Friday.

The Mist of The Mountains
The Mist of The Mountains

Well I figure it is time to start my blog a day challenge and what better way than to chronicle my trip to Salt Spring Island British Columbia. So starting this Friday you are going to get a blog a day from me and by you I mean the 10 or so people that actually read this lol. 

So originally we were supposed to be going to the Osheaga music festival in Montreal. I was really excited about going to the festival, it would have been my first trip to eastern Canada. Unfortunately my Grandma has become sick so we sold our tickets and decided to take a road trip out to the west coast to see her instead, of coarse family always comes first. 

I am actually kind of happy that we will be going to the West Coast anyway, especially Salt Spring Island, I always feel so relaxed there. I opened my business 2 years ago now and it has been go go go ever since and it will be nice to go on a trip where I actually get to relax. I have been to Vegas a few times for trade shows but I never feel relaxed after those trips mostly because well, Its VEGAS.

So starting this Friday night I will start chronicling my trip and all of the experiences I have on it.



Why Do 30 Year Old Lesbians Dress Like 16 Year Old Boys from the 90’s?

This is the question that has been on my mind for a while, so I am hoping someone out there can help me with it, Why do some lesbians clearly in their 30’s still dress like 16 year old boys? Here is a picture in case you don’t know what I mean. 


I guess each person is entitled to their own sense of style and expression. It seems to me however that the lesbians who dress like this are in a time-stand-still. They are no different than the lady that still styles up her hair like she is going to her high school grad in the 80’s.

80's Hair

Now if your young and you want to seem more like the “Masculine” one in the relationship I can see why this style would be appealing to you although I don’t think this style is in at all anymore. All I am saying is that maybe its time time update your style and get out of times past. Stop cutting your hair super short and dying it platinum blonde with ice spike styling glue to make sure that shit always stays in place. Stop wearing the super baggy jeans of a rapper and unless you are going camping or chilling around the house get rid of the sweat shirt hoddie. If you are reading this and getting upset over what I am writing then it is you that I am talking to. Time to grow up and start acting like the successful, attractive, lesbian woman that you are. If you are trying to be more masculine let me tell you not even straight guys dress like this anymore.

Now I don’t want to tell you how to live your life but really your fashion has come and gone and if you still have it, well its time for it to go.



Palestine and Israel: Will There Ever Be Peace?

Now I just want to say that I am in no way an expert on the Israel-Palestine conflict, hell I barely have a grasp on what is going on there. I do however know that for my entire life every year or two there seems to be a huge explosion in brutal violence there. The images that I have been seeing online are atrocious. Children and families being ripped apart by Israeli bombs it’s sickening. I can not imagine having to live through such horrors on a daily basis or for that matter ever.

I have been lucky to grow up in a country like Canada. Canada is for the most part a relatively peaceful place. If there is ever a conflict, like Afghanistan, it is always so far off our shores that we don’t really have to worry about it all too much (even though we should).

Canadians come from every part of the world, besides the First Nations people, we are all immigrants to this land. We have come here to escape poverty, war, to settle a new land and most of all to make a better life for ourselves and for future generations. What has always amazed me about places like Canada is that people for the most part get along. We have every race, religion, ethnic and sexual minority group on the planet living in one place side by side working to build a better future and whether we realize it or not we are all doing it together.

This brings me back to Palestine and Israel Why is it that they can not just live together. I know what some of you are going to say, “It’s Israel’s Fault.” Meanwhile the other half of you will say, “It’s Palestine’s Fault.” Now we can go back in history and pick apart who has the rightful claim to the lands and who should be living where, but unfortunately that is never going to bring peace to the region.

I really think we need to start focusing on how we can live together in peace. Is there really any reason the Israelis and the Palestinians can not just live together? Both sides probably want the same thing (When I say both sides I mean the people not the governments). Both sides want Peace, Security, Jobs, Education, Health, Families, Friends and Love. They don’t have to agree with everything their neighbor thinks but that does not mean they can not work together. If I don’t agree with a co-worker I do not bomb or kill him; I work with him. Canada would be a perfect example of how people of differing beliefs can work together and live together with out killing one another. I know we are not perfect we have racism and hate crimes and things like that but those events are far less than the amount we actually work together as a people.

I hope that one day the people of both lands will find peace with one another and form a nation of Palestinians and Israelis living and working together in peace

Jealousy Am I Over It?

Well something interesting happened to me this past weekend. Another man tried to kiss my boyfriend and it did not make me jealous. I think this is the first time that has happened to me.

My boyfriend and I were invited over to a mutual friends house this past weekend for a BBQ. It was a scorcher that evening so the gathering was taking place in the garage so we could stay out of the heat. I decided that I would stay sober for the evening and drive so that my boyfriend and I would not have to shell out to catch a cab home.  There was 7 of us at the party 2 straight couples, my boyfriend and I and a very cute guy whom I had previously never met.

Things were going great, well except for the fact that I was the only one that could not speak or understand Mandarin. Two of the people there were linguistics majors so there was a lot of talk about langue and being a single language English speaker I was kind of left out of the conversation, well at least until the liquor started flowing. Man did I ever want a drink seeing all of these people drunk around me, although my fun came out of watching all the drunk people around me ( I of coarse am never like that when I am drunk lol)

So anyway as the new guy got drunker and drunker he became more and more open about his sexuality. Apparently no one there until that night was even aware that he was gay. Funny how when you stick a closeted gay with some other gays they always seem to come out. Well I guess it is not funny just normal. So as New Guy drank more and more he would make off handed comments like “I am so horny, I would do anyone right now.” In my head all I am thinking is, good for you buddy, or maybe it was more like Man if I was single I would be all over that. So closer to when we are going to go New Guy keeps telling me how sexy my legs are, then out of no where he bends over and kisses my knee. Man drunk people really are hilarious.

My boyfriend is standing next to New Guy enjoying his beverage when out of know where he leans in to kiss my boyfriend smack dab on the lips, and like I would expect from my boyfriend he moves back just as fast as the kiss comes in. Normally someone even attempting to kiss my boyfriend would have my blood bubbling. I might look calm and rational on the out side but in side I am kicking the crap out of the guy. This time though when he leaned in to kiss my boyfriend I felt on the inside just as I looked on the outside, Calm. I think that I am finally just in a relationship where I can be comfortable and most of all trusting. I think my boyfriend is amazing and I truly believe that he would never do anything to hurt me like that.

It really feels good to have found something so great in this life.

Renovations for better or for worse

Renovations such a wonderful thing but also very very VERY stressful at times. Back in May my boyfriend and I started renovating our first home together. It started off so exciting the search for the house all the ideas, the plans, our dreams. Now though after almost 3 months of living in a dust storm it is starting to get to us a bit. Small little things can turn in to great big arguments. You know the kind of arguments where half an hour later you look back and just think, “I have no clue what we were even arguing about.”

We are slowly adjusting though to our new way of life. We decided that in stead of always saying “I can’t wait for the renovation to be done” instead we would just enjoy the process. It’s funny how just a small change in thought patters and really turn things around. One of my favorite sayings is

fake it till you make it

and it is so true. For example if you are sad just pretend to be happy and before you know it you actually will be.

Well that’s my blog for the day check out this before and after picture of our original 102 year old hardwood floors from being covered to now being refinished by hand.


Introduction To My Blog

Well hello there.

Thank you for stopping by my blog. I guess you are wondering what this blog is going to be all about. Well in an effort not to sound to vain this blog will be about, well, me. I feel that life is such an amazing journey that has it’s fair share of ups and downs. So many of these ups and these downs are shared experiences, even though sometimes when we are in them we may feel alone. I believe that life is a series of choices that we each have to decide upon and each of those little choices creates the beautiful, or not so beautiful, life that we have around us.

So I guess I will just be sharing my experiences with you from the past to the present and even my dreams for the future.

Well let me tell you a little about myself. I was born in Edmonton, AB Canada an oil city with a population of under 1 million people. I have lived in B.C a few times and spent a big portion of my childhood living in Edmonton with weekends and holidays spent on our acreage near Dapp, AB which is a small farming community of about 100 people. I guess we should get something out of the way now. I am a Gay Man. Anyway now that we are past that, I spent a lot of my young adult life Drinking partying and smoking weed. I loved a lot of men and had many “long-term” relationships which I am sure you are going to hear all about. Since then I have grown up a bit I now own my own business, I am in a loving relationship with an incredible man we have 2 cats and we just bought a house together.

Well I don’t want to tell you too much about myself yet because that is what the blog is for. I hope you will enjoy my little space here on the internet and please feel free to take part and discuss what I have to talk about.