I need a little advice from you.
My boyfriend and I have been living together for just over 2 years now. His parents just let him know that they will be coming to visit, from China, in early summer for 2 months. He came out to his parents just before we moved in together. I have assumed this whole time that they knew we were living together but it turns out they do not know. He has sort of suggested that I could move out for two months while they visit so that it is easier on his parents and well in turn easier on his own emotions. I feel like I am stuck in a really difficult situation. Part of me wants to say sure honey I will find somewhere to stay for a few month, but the other part is saying, No I am staying wet have built a life together and it is time you man up and tell your parents that we live together. I mean we have spent the last year renovating a home together we have adopted a cat and a dog together we have built a pretty kick ass life with each other.
If I were a person of the opposite sex that his parents did not like would I be asked to leave? No probably not there are a ton of couples whose partners parents do not like their son or daughters partners. Some how they all learn to at least tolerate each other.
I do understand though that their is a major difference between Chinese and Canadian culture when it comes to Same Sex relationships.
So I guess you have enough to go on from me. Do what do you think I should do. Should I leave for the two months or should I stay?
Well something interesting happened to me this past weekend. Another man tried to kiss my boyfriend and it did not make me jealous. I think this is the first time that has happened to me.
My boyfriend and I were invited over to a mutual friends house this past weekend for a BBQ. It was a scorcher that evening so the gathering was taking place in the garage so we could stay out of the heat. I decided that I would stay sober for the evening and drive so that my boyfriend and I would not have to shell out to catch a cab home. There was 7 of us at the party 2 straight couples, my boyfriend and I and a very cute guy whom I had previously never met.
Things were going great, well except for the fact that I was the only one that could not speak or understand Mandarin. Two of the people there were linguistics majors so there was a lot of talk about langue and being a single language English speaker I was kind of left out of the conversation, well at least until the liquor started flowing. Man did I ever want a drink seeing all of these people drunk around me, although my fun came out of watching all the drunk people around me ( I of coarse am never like that when I am drunk lol)
So anyway as the new guy got drunker and drunker he became more and more open about his sexuality. Apparently no one there until that night was even aware that he was gay. Funny how when you stick a closeted gay with some other gays they always seem to come out. Well I guess it is not funny just normal. So as New Guy drank more and more he would make off handed comments like “I am so horny, I would do anyone right now.” In my head all I am thinking is, good for you buddy, or maybe it was more like Man if I was single I would be all over that. So closer to when we are going to go New Guy keeps telling me how sexy my legs are, then out of no where he bends over and kisses my knee. Man drunk people really are hilarious.
My boyfriend is standing next to New Guy enjoying his beverage when out of know where he leans in to kiss my boyfriend smack dab on the lips, and like I would expect from my boyfriend he moves back just as fast as the kiss comes in. Normally someone even attempting to kiss my boyfriend would have my blood bubbling. I might look calm and rational on the out side but in side I am kicking the crap out of the guy. This time though when he leaned in to kiss my boyfriend I felt on the inside just as I looked on the outside, Calm. I think that I am finally just in a relationship where I can be comfortable and most of all trusting. I think my boyfriend is amazing and I truly believe that he would never do anything to hurt me like that.
It really feels good to have found something so great in this life.
Well hello there.
Thank you for stopping by my blog. I guess you are wondering what this blog is going to be all about. Well in an effort not to sound to vain this blog will be about, well, me. I feel that life is such an amazing journey that has it’s fair share of ups and downs. So many of these ups and these downs are shared experiences, even though sometimes when we are in them we may feel alone. I believe that life is a series of choices that we each have to decide upon and each of those little choices creates the beautiful, or not so beautiful, life that we have around us.
So I guess I will just be sharing my experiences with you from the past to the present and even my dreams for the future.
Well let me tell you a little about myself. I was born in Edmonton, AB Canada an oil city with a population of under 1 million people. I have lived in B.C a few times and spent a big portion of my childhood living in Edmonton with weekends and holidays spent on our acreage near Dapp, AB which is a small farming community of about 100 people. I guess we should get something out of the way now. I am a Gay Man. Anyway now that we are past that, I spent a lot of my young adult life Drinking partying and smoking weed. I loved a lot of men and had many “long-term” relationships which I am sure you are going to hear all about. Since then I have grown up a bit I now own my own business, I am in a loving relationship with an incredible man we have 2 cats and we just bought a house together.
Well I don’t want to tell you too much about myself yet because that is what the blog is for. I hope you will enjoy my little space here on the internet and please feel free to take part and discuss what I have to talk about.