Well today is a slightly frightening day. I am going to meet my boyfriends parents for the first time after almost 5 years of dating. His parents are flying in from Macau, China, for his sisters graduation, and have decided to stay with us. At first they were going to stay in a hotel because they just could not deal with the whole gay thing. At the last minute though they decided to stay with us. Now we are just finishing up the finishing touches on the house in a panic, preparing for their arrival. As you can imagine this is going to be a very interesting couple of weeks. Stay tuned for daily updates lol.
I need a little advice from you.
My boyfriend and I have been living together for just over 2 years now. His parents just let him know that they will be coming to visit, from China, in early summer for 2 months. He came out to his parents just before we moved in together. I have assumed this whole time that they knew we were living together but it turns out they do not know. He has sort of suggested that I could move out for two months while they visit so that it is easier on his parents and well in turn easier on his own emotions. I feel like I am stuck in a really difficult situation. Part of me wants to say sure honey I will find somewhere to stay for a few month, but the other part is saying, No I am staying wet have built a life together and it is time you man up and tell your parents that we live together. I mean we have spent the last year renovating a home together we have adopted a cat and a dog together we have built a pretty kick ass life with each other.
If I were a person of the opposite sex that his parents did not like would I be asked to leave? No probably not there are a ton of couples whose partners parents do not like their son or daughters partners. Some how they all learn to at least tolerate each other.
I do understand though that their is a major difference between Chinese and Canadian culture when it comes to Same Sex relationships.
So I guess you have enough to go on from me. Do what do you think I should do. Should I leave for the two months or should I stay?
Renovations such a wonderful thing but also very very VERY stressful at times. Back in May my boyfriend and I started renovating our first home together. It started off so exciting the search for the house all the ideas, the plans, our dreams. Now though after almost 3 months of living in a dust storm it is starting to get to us a bit. Small little things can turn in to great big arguments. You know the kind of arguments where half an hour later you look back and just think, “I have no clue what we were even arguing about.”
We are slowly adjusting though to our new way of life. We decided that in stead of always saying “I can’t wait for the renovation to be done” instead we would just enjoy the process. It’s funny how just a small change in thought patters and really turn things around. One of my favorite sayings is
fake it till you make it
and it is so true. For example if you are sad just pretend to be happy and before you know it you actually will be.
Well that’s my blog for the day check out this before and after picture of our original 102 year old hardwood floors from being covered to now being refinished by hand.